Who you Control

I had a really interesting conversation last night. I was talking to a friend who had a hard time with the fact that I had started talking to someone that I had never physically met. I know that on-line dating is big now says, and I can understand it, people are busy, careers get in the way of really having time to go out and meet someone. But I didn’t meet this guy on the Internet. His brother is a friend of mine and told me about him. We have been talking, both on the phone and on web cam. He is an amazing guy, really. Now the thing that my friend had a hard time with was that I was going down to meet him. He said that this guy now feels like he has control over me because I am going down there and he isn’t coming to me. I totally disagree. He was making all these judgments about this guy and he doesn’t even know him. I know that there are a lot of creeps out there and it can be really hard to trust someone that you have never physically met, but there are good people out there. I’m not being naive but I don’t know that you cant carry your past with you. You can learn from it and know what to look out for and be more cautious, but in the end you have to realize sometime that you have to open up a little. I told him that this guy will never have control over me. No one controls me but me and I cant control anyone else. People can have their opinions and be influenced and influence others but in the end the only person that we control is us. Knowing that I will always remember that. I can go down and meet him and he could turn out to be different than I thought and I will go home and go on with life. Its too short to waste on being sad about something that obviously wasn’t meant to be. It only means that something better is coming. I cant control how this guy thinks or what he wants but I can control myself, my thoughts, my actions, and I will be proud of them, and have no regrets.

I have no regrets from my past. I do wish that maybe things would have been different but if things were different then they would different now and right now I like things how they are.

So the point to all this is to realize that who i control is me, and to me that is ultimate control.